While that’s definitely a good thing (and a weird red flag if he’s treating everyone like he does her!), take note about how he interacts with others-including yourself. Obviously, men treat women who they’re romancing much different than the rest of the world. While it might seem like a small thing, if you’re seeing it, there’s a likelihood that this isn’t a rare instance. Do they seem like they’re generally happy together, or do you notice anything strange or unusual about their relationship? Does anything about their interactions make you feel uncomfortable?įor instance, if you don’t think she’s herself around him, or if he seems like he makes her feel frazzled or insecure, definitely make note of it-and consider telling her.
While you might not necessarily like his jokes, try to watch how they get along-as objectively as you can. Do they have mutual respect for one another? Do they laugh and tease? Do they challenge each other, but in good humor? Does she bring out the best in him, and likewise? Sure, he might not be winning any points with you, but how well does he mesh with her? When you’re out with both of them, notice how they interact. While these red flags might be obvious to you, remember you’re not the one caught up in the wind of romance-which can cloud all of our judgments. However, if her admiration does seem shallow, and she seems fixated on the wrong traits, or solely focuses exclusively on how he makes her feel, without any sort of objectivity, don’t be afraid to point out these concerns-gently. If her overall descriptions of him depict an upstanding man who seems reliable, kind, and willing to communicate and compromise-and you trust your friend enough to make these types of assessments-these are all good signs, whether or not you personally get along with him. Listen: What Is She Saying About Him?Īside from describing that initial romantic attraction- He’s absolutely amazing! I’m on cloud nine!-how does she describe his personality? Does she provide anecdotal stories that actually describe his character? And when she spouts blushing admiration, does it go beyond shallow appreciation? But what you can do is pay close attention and decide what's worth bringing up. If your friend seems unhappy-intervene.”īut if you just have a general feeling of dislike or simply a perpetual ‘meh,’ towards her significant other, and she oddly seems all happy and giggly about him, there’s no clear cut answer on what you should do. If you feel the person abuses drugs or alcohol-yes, intervene. “You have to remember that once you say something negative about the person he or she may marry, your friend may go ahead and marry that person nevertheless and it could negatively affect your friendship.”Īs Sussman says, “If you feel the relationship is dangerous or abusive, intervene. “It's always a risk to stick your neck out unless a friend brings it up first,” shares Rachel Sussman, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I wasn't the only person to cringe when I learned of this news-all our friends were nonplused by this new development. I'm back.Recently my concerns were compounded when we discovered they are talking about marriage. I think I'll save my next entry for tomorrow, cause tomorrow's a brand new day. I'll try to be really good about giving you guys your fix, but please hold me to it too, if there's anything you want to know or think about too, you all know I love hearing from you. But if anything I think I'll use this as a venue to let my good friends know what's going on in my life, and my acquaintances know a little more into my mentality. I won't bore you with the ramblings of a crazy woman talking about work. I think its truly going to be a time in which I let you know what I'm thinking, wishing, wanting and waiting. I'm not sure what the premise is going to be around this blogspot. Kind of a game.Īnyway, welcome one and all, to go and tell your friends. The fun of it, is I never know who's calling me.
I get calls, I can make *some* calls too. Truth be told, it's kind of less stressful too, not to always be monitoring the thing.
No, my phalanges are still in tact, however, my cell is unfortunately with a broken screen and at this point in time I am way too lazy to go get it fixed. Partially its because I've lost the ability to text. To combat the necessity to watch mind-numbing shows and decrease my already low IQ, I figured I would promise myself that I would commit to writing too.
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